shapely shadows

'.....sex and love have become polarised through guilt. In such a context sex can achieve purification only through love. In the minds of the French middle classes, sex, even where love is absent, is a source of pleasure to which every human being has an inalienable right. This applies to women as well as men. Adultery is widely perceived as one of the principal components of marriage.' I suddenly thought of friends, family & aquiantances. All those unnecessary fights & grievance they endured. The words that was said that couldn't be taken back, the words
that should have been said & the words that couldn't be said. Far too much grief, is that what most relationships are all about?! I couldn't do that again, not again. Who made it a normality that relationships & pain come hand-in-hand? What's so confusing about love, sex, passion & desire? We make it far too complicated because of our own guilt. We are the harshest critic of ourselves.

'...that passion and desire should be accommodated within a marriage. You navigate your way through these emotions, treating your spouse as carefully as you can in the process. But on no account do you leave them' - How true!