yes...yes....YEEESSSSSSSSSSS!!!!

You know when you have started a bad day when the conversation you had makes you feel miniscule and pathetic. When you suddenly realise how small their impression they have of you. And whatever you do, you are nothing to them because they're comparing you constantly. And you know when you are used to such comments because it doesn't make you feel angry or sad, just a feeling of blankness. It hurts you so much that it goes deep inside of you without any emotions ever surfacing. Sigh! I am so dejected that I can't even think straight at the moment. Anyway, let's talk about something much more exciting and interesting - Orgasm. Yes, you read it right - Orgasms.

The reason I've decided to discuss this particular topic is because this it came up during a friend's recent dinner party. He was saying that his wife would have orgasms just by touching her ankles, much to his wife's displeasure with him sharing it with their dinner guests. I mean, if that makes her release endorphins and oxytocin, good on her! During my younger years, I was with someone who could not even get an orgasm. For months I thought I was doing something wrong until one day I was told that she had deep issues. Phew! Obviously our connection didn't last that long and I haven't heard from her since. I hope she have solved her issues now. Bless her!

It's folk wisdom that people can't think straight when they have sex on their minds, but recent study suggests that when women have an orgasm most of their brains switch off. A brain scanning study showed that many areas of women's brains were deactivated during orgasm, including those involved in emotion. The effect was less striking in men, but that may be because male orgasms are so short they are hard to detect in a brain scan. Or perhaps, there isn't a brain to scan in the first place.

I'll leave you with the American author, Erica Jong thoughts on the subject:

Oh Doris Lessing, my dear -- your Anna is wrong about orgasms. They are no proof of love -- any more than that other Anna's fall under the wheels of that Russian train was a proof of love. It's all female shenanigans, cultural mishegoss, conditioning, brainwashing, male mythologizing. What does a woman want? She wants what she has been told she ought to want. Anna Wulf wants orgasm, Anna Karenina, death. Orgasm is no proof of anything. Orgasm is proof of orgasm. Someday every woman will have orgasms -- like every family has colour TV -- and we can all get on with the real business of life.